Five Ways to Have a Better Orgasm

Everyone loves a good orgasm, but sometimes they can seem as elusive as a pot of gold at the end of some magical rainbow. If you’re looking for toe-curling, floating-on-cloud-nine orgasms that seem downright impossible to achieve, you’re in luck because there are a number of things you can do to enjoy stronger and more frequent orgasms—in other words, a better orgasm—starting tonight. In fact, get ready to loosen your loins as you’re about to discover five science-backed methods for achieving insanely good climaxes and ultimate bedroom bliss.

1. Boost Your Oxytocin and Dopamine Levels

While you may not have heard of the “love hormone” oxytocin, a new study revealed that couples who received oxytocin in the form of a nasal spray experienced much more intense orgasms than couples who did not. If you’re like most people, you likely don’t have oxytocin nasal spray in your medicine cabinet or lying around the house. However, you’ll be happy to know you can experience a boost of the powerful hormone simply by cuddling, hugging and enjoying various forms of foreplay with your partner. Dopamine, which is a powerful neurotransmitter partly responsible for feelings of euphoria or depression, also enhances libido and feelings of arousal and makes your orgasms more intoxicating. When you’re able to achieve both high oxytocin and dopamine levels, your orgasms will make your body feel like a volcano about to erupt.

2. Foreplay Is Key to a Better Orgasm

Sure, sometimes you may just want to get right down to it, but you wouldn’t run a marathon without stretching and warming up a little first, would you? If you want to experience an incredible bedroom finish, then warming up with a little foreplay can make a world of difference. That being said, if you’re desperately searching for a bigger and better orgasm, you need to look beyond the genital area. While the penis, scrotum, clitoris and vulva all play an important role in orchestrating a sheet-clenching orgasm, the human body is loaded with nerve endings patiently waiting for arousal and orgasms can be stimulated in the most unexpected of places. The next time you and your partner are having or about to have sex, spend a little time playing with other parts of each other’s bodies and focus on areas that feel “really good.”

3. Get Wet

You don’t have to break out the baby oil, but getting a little lubed and wet will almost certainly lead to mind-numbing orgasms. In one study, half of those surveyed admitted to being able to orgasm much easier with the use of lubricant, so you may want to keep a little stocked in the nightstand for some seriously hot and steamy nights. Having sex in the bath or shower is another great option. Between the stimulating sensations of rushing water and a room fool of steam, your sexual passions and orgasms can be taken to new heights.

4. Delay Gratification

As the saying goes, “good things come to those who wait.” Well, a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research is keeping that saying alive and well. According to the study, when you bring yourself close to the point of orgasm and stop before climaxing, you build up a much more intense and explosive orgasm. For many of us, the whole point of sex is to orgasm, so it may seem counterintuitive at first. However, by slowing down when your 90 percent there and building up to that point again and again until you absolutely can’t take it anymore, you’ll experience an orgasm so great that it’ll be well worth the wait. This practice, often called “peaking,” has been around for ages and it absolutely works to create a better orgasm. In fact, according to Dr. Ian Kerner, founder of GoodinBed.com, “It keeps you in this holding pattern of orgasmic pleasure.”

5. Stay Fit and Healthy

Staying fit and in shape won’t just boost your confidence in the sack; it will help you experience greater sexual satisfaction as well. According to a 2007 University of Cincinnati study, regular exercise and healthy living can have a positive impact on your energy levels and sex life and allow you to enjoy more frequent and intense orgasms. This is due to the fact that exercise increases genital blood flow and makes you feel more comfortable with your body, thus providing you with both psychological and physiological benefits. Smoking and excessive drinking can also affect sexual arousal and satisfaction. Drinking inhibits vaginal lubrication and makes it more difficult for men and women to orgasm. Meanwhile, smoking can cause restricted genital blood flow in guys. So, if you want to experience more pleasure in bed and a better orgasm, staying fit and healthy will definitely help.